The church in Rome had believers who ate differently sitting at the same tables, and the apostle Paul gave them this: “Let not him that eateth despise him that eateth not; and let not him which eateth not judge him that eateth” (Romans 14:3).
That verse fits Thanksgiving well. You may be the only one at your sister’s table, or your in-laws’ table, who eats the way you do. The day is about the people and about giving thanks to God, and the food can be handled quietly with a little planning.
Call ahead and offer to bring a dish
A week or two before, call your host. Thank them for having you and ask what you can bring. Most hosts are glad for the help, and it saves them from wondering what to cook for you.
Choose a dish hearty enough to be your main course, and make plenty so the whole table can share it. A few that travel well:
- A large grain and vegetable salad, such as our Radiant Quinoa Salad, with quinoa, peas, carrots and seeds.
- A big pot of bean and vegetable soup, kept warm in a slow cooker.
- Roasted winter squash halves filled with wild rice, celery, onion and chopped pecans.
Then bring something the rest of the family will reach for too. Rhonda Malkmus’s Holiday Sweet Potato Casserole, from her Hallelujah Holiday Recipes, is an easy one to share. Our Ginger Cranberry Relish is made from fresh cranberries, apples and pears, and it disappears fast.
Fill your plate from what’s already there
Most Thanksgiving tables hold more plant foods than people notice. Look for the salad, green beans, sweet potatoes, corn, cranberries and any roasted vegetables.
Start with the salad and the vegetables, then add your own dish in the middle of the plate. If a side was made with butter or cream, pass it along to the next person without comment. Nobody is watching your plate as closely as you think.
Eat a good breakfast that morning and have a glass of fresh vegetable juice. Arriving starving at two in the afternoon is when the rolls and the pie are hardest to pass up.
When someone asks about your plate
“Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt” (Colossians 4:6). A short, kind answer is all the moment needs. A few you can borrow:
- “Where do you get your protein?” “Beans, lentils, nuts, seeds and greens. I feel better eating this way.”
- “One bite won’t hurt you.” “Thank you, I have plenty. This casserole is wonderful.”
- “Isn’t that a lot of work?” “Less than you’d think. I’ll send you the recipe.”
The holiday table is a poor place to explain the whole diet. If someone wants to know more, offer to talk another time or send them something to read. Some of the people who watch you enjoy your food will come back with questions after the holidays.
If you eat something you didn’t plan to
Your health is built on what you eat most days, and one holiday meal doesn’t change that. On Friday morning, go back to your usual breakfast, have your juice, and carry on.
If you leave the table feeling heavy and sleepy, our article on why you get sleepy after a big meal covers what happens and how to eat so it doesn’t.
Give thanks
“In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you” (1 Thessalonians 5:18). Thank the cook, thank the host, and thank God for the people around the table. That is what the day is for, and it is the part they will remember.
Frequently asked questions
Should I tell my host about my diet ahead of time?
Yes, briefly. Let them know how you eat, tell them not to cook anything special, and offer to bring a dish.
What if the host insists on making something for me?
Thank them and suggest something simple, such as a big green salad with oil and vinegar on the side or plain baked sweet potatoes.
What about dessert?
Bring one you can enjoy, such as baked apples with cinnamon and chopped pecans, and keep your portion small. Fruit desserts are still sweet.
What if a relative keeps pushing food on me?
Smile, thank them, and turn the conversation to them. Ask how their year has been. Most people would much rather talk about themselves than about your plate.
I’m the only one in my family who eats this way. Is it worth going at all?
Yes. Being with your family matters, and the dish you bring gives you plenty to eat.
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